Sexual fantasies are a healthy and normal part of life. However, some people feel ashamed or embarrassed about their fantasies and even suppress them. This can lead to a lack of satisfaction with their sex lives. Besides, we must learn to be honest with our partners when it comes to our desires and fantasies.
The most common sexual fantasies amongst individuals can be divided into different categories, such as BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism), orgies and group sex, submission and domination, outdoor sex, voyeurism and exhibitionism.
In this article, we’ll discuss the most common sexual fantasies, covering what they are and how to incorporate them into your sex life with your partner. With an open mind, two willing parties and clear communication, it’s possible to turn your fantasies into reality.
The first category of sexual fantasies is BDSM. This acronym stands for bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism. People who enjoy BDSM typically like to incorporate different elements of power play into their sex lives. For example, one partner may take on the role of a dominant whilst the other partner is submissive. At its core, BDSM is a consensual activity that is based on respect and trust.
Bondage: Bondage involves restraining or being restrained, usually with specialised equipment such as handcuffs, rope, tape or harnesses.
Discipline: This is when one partner (the dominant) gives orders, and the other partner (the submissive) must obey them.
Dominance and Submission: “D/s” roles are when the dominant partner has control over the submissive partner. This could involve orders, humiliation and control over when and whether physical pleasure is allowed or denied.
Sadism and Masochism (S&M): This is when one partner takes pleasure from another’s pain or humiliation. The submissive partner allows themselves to be humiliated or even tortured by the dominant partner.
Orgies and Group Sex
The second category of sexual fantasies is orgies and group sex. People who fantasise about group sex generally get aroused by the thought of sharing their sexual partner with another person or multiple partners. This can involve a partner engaging in sex with other people while their partner watches, or they can engage in the acts together with the third (or more) people.
Group sex can be consensual or non-consensual. It is absolutely essential to come to a mutual agreement and set boundaries with all participants involved before engaging in any kind of group sex activity.
Submission and Domination
The third category of sexual fantasy involves submission and domination. Here, people may enjoy a partner taking control of their body and their pleasure. This may involve physical activities and sexual play.
The dominant partner has control and is often the one who decides when and how the couple has sex, whilst the submissive partner is the one who follows orders. This kind of sexual play can be thrilling for some couples and can be a way to increase trust, deepen the connection and add intensity to the relationship.
How to Incorporate It Into Your Sex Life
If you want to incorporate your shared sexual fantasies into the bedroom, the most important thing is to communicate clearly with your partner. Talk openly about your desires and make sure both of you are on the same page.
Here are some tips to make the experience safe, enjoyable, and exciting:
-Set boundaries: Decide in advance what activities you’re OK with and what isn’t acceptable.
-Create a safe word: Agree on a word or phrase that either of you can say to stop a sexual activity. This should be used if one of you becomes uncomfortable or starts to feel overwhelmed.
-Practice safe sex: Always use protection when engaging in sexual activities with multiple partners.
-Get informed: Do your research and learn about the activities you plan to engage in. It’s important to stay safe and know what you’re doing.
-Slow down: Start slowly and gradually increase intensity. You should take your time and increase the intensity for each activity when you and your partner are ready.
-Listen to your body: Most importantly, listen to your body and mind. If something doesn’t feel right or comfortable at any point, stop the activity immediately.
The fourth category of sexual fantasies is outdoor sex. This may involve either public or private outdoor activities, and can be anything from a romantic picnic to an outdoor shower.
Many people fantasise about being seen engaging in sexual activities, and this is a safe way to feel a bit naughty while also enjoying the great outdoors. This could involve flashing, skinny dipping and sex in an outdoor location such as a beach, park or pool.
On the other hand, some people can feel uncomfortable participating in public sex. If this is the case, there are still ways to have a fabulous time outdoors. For instance, you could take your time dressing up and undressing each other in a secluded area, or have a romantic picnic in a discrete place.
Voyeurism and Exhibitionism
The fifth category is voyeurism and exhibitionism. Voyeurism is when someone gets aroused from watching others engaging in sexual activities. Exhibitionism is the opposite – when someone likes to be watched.
Voyeurism and exhibitionism usually goes hand in hand. If you and your partner are into this kink, remember it should always be consensual. Before engaging in any activity, discuss it openly and pick a place that you both feel comfortable.
In conclusion, fantasies are an essential part of our sex lives. However, it is important to understand that fantasies should always be consensual. Communicate clearly, set boundaries and take your time when introducing something new to the bedroom. Your fantasies can become a reality if you and your partner are open and honest, willing to experiment and practice safe sex.